Examples of Friendship in Pop Culture

Boy Meets World
Characters Cory and Topanga

“If you let people into your life a little bit, they can be pretty damn amazing.” – The Absolutely True Diary of a Part-Tume Indian by Sherman Alexie

We all know Cory and Topanga turned into one of the greatest love stories of the 1990s. What we might not remember is that at the beginning of the show Cory and Topanga didn’t even like each other. Cory thought Topanga was too weird. Until he became a weird kid himself, he didn’t understand what it was like to live in Topanga’s world of middle school. Just like Junior and his new friends at the white high school, both Cory and Topanga were skeptical of one another but after letting the other in, they realized the other was pretty cool, and then became every 90s kid’s relationship envy.


Grease
Characters: Danny and Kenickie

I had the sudden urge to hug Gordy, and he had the sudden urge to prevent me from hugging him.
Don’t get sentimental,” he said.
Yep, even the weird boys are afraid of their emotions.” – The Absolutely True Diary of a Part-Time Indian by Sherman Alexie

 

Danny and Kenickie from Grease are “cool” guys so they aren’t exactly “weird boys” like Gordy and Junior, but one theme stays true, boys, even the best of friends, don’t like to show their emotions. Although sometimes, they just can’t help themselves. Just like Danny and Kenickie share a moment of brotherhood, Junior is overcome with emotion when he finds out Gordy is becoming his real friend. Male friendships differ from female friendships in that females tend to connect by sharing their emotions and males connect by sharing anything but. Subscribing to this “boy code” is reinforced time and time again in both literature and pop culture.


F.R.I.E.N.D.S.
Characters: Ross, Rachel, Chandler, Monica, Joey & Phoebe

“And he only talks about his dreams with me. And I only talk about my dreams with him.” – The Absolutely True Diary of a Part-Time Indian by Sherman Alexie

One of the most important aspects of friendships is sharing secrets. Those things about yourself, or those things that happened that you wouldn’t want anyone else to know about? Yeah, those are the things you usually tell your friends, whether it’s in confidence, after alcohol, or in a fit of anger rage like the Friends gang. Friendships are built on trust.


When Harry Met Sally
Characters: Harry & Sally

“I was blind and heart broken and didn’t want to do anything and Gus burst into my room and shouted, “I have wonderful news!” And I was like, “I don’t really want to hear wonderful news right now,” and Gus said, “This is wonderful news you want to hear,” and I asked him, “Fine, what is it?” and he said, “You are going to live a good and long life filled with great and terrible moments that you cannot even imagine yet!”- The Fault in Our Stars by John Green

Another important aspect of friendship is loyalty and being the cheering-up committee when a friend is sad or defeated. Like Gus in TFIOS, Harry tries to cheer Sally up after she finds out her ex-boyfriend is getting married after he refused to get married to Sally years earlier. Even when the sad friend doesn’t want to hear the good things or the cheering up, good friends bust through the bad to make them realize everything will get better.


The “Mean Girls” Guide to Friendship – The Odyssey

“I need a new friend. I need a friend, period. Not a true friend, nothing close or share clothes or sleepover giggle giggle yak yak. Just a pseudo-friend, disposable friend. Friend as accessory. Just so I don’t feel or look so stupid.”- Speak by Laurie Halse Anderson

Sometimes, people you think are your friends aren’t really your friends at all. Sometimes you make friends with people just so you don’t have to survive on your own. Melinda befriends Heather because she is friendless and does not want to go through freshman year alone. Similarly in Mean Girls, Cady is new to the school and becomes fremenies with the clique the Plastics. In an article from The Odyssey Hannah Hass explains true friendship by explaining what NOT to do using the movie Mean Girls as an example. Most of the time, making a friend out of convenience doesn’t end well.

 

 

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